Throughout most of our lives, our very souls have been quietly and systematically castrated, causing us to enter adulthood as little more than boys in adult bodies, well into our 30s, 40s, 50s and beyond.Īt every turn, men have unknowingly been gradually feminized and emasculated…and it’s quite literally, killing us. We live in a hyper-feminized world where feelings matter more than facts… where agreeableness is lauded and assertiveness is criticized…where comfort and safety are prioritized and courageous and uncommon action are seen as unnecessary and even childish risks that endanger the “common” way of life. Parents tell us to “play it safe”, avoid taking risks, and “be grateful” for what is – a mundane and muted existence.
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Teachers disparage us for our inability to sit still and pay attention and encourage us to fit in like the rest of the class, stick to the status quo, and avoid standing out.
#VERY MASCULINE GAY MEN HOW TO#
Not only are we not taught how to be a masculine man (or how to be masculine at all), but we are actively discouraged from seeking these answers for ourselves.ĭoctors give us drugs for any minor symptoms which then sedate our lust for adventure and ability to create heroic lives. Men are today more confused than ever before about what it means to be a man (let alone an attractive man) and what our role is in our rapidly changing society.įrom a young age, we are told to be quiet, sit still, follow the rules, listen to mommy, obey the teacher and avoid any display of aggression, talking back or acts of “masculinity”. Our capacity as providers of resources and security is no longer needed… Our physical strength, once necessary to protect others from the hidden dangers of life on earth, is no longer needed… …Simply an acknowledgment that this unprecedented rise in equality and opportunity has created unforeseen and largely unaddressed problems for modern men. And this is in no way a call to regress to the “Good old days” of the past where a woman’s sole purpose was that of the dutiful housewife… These feats, unimaginable only a decade ago, are indeed good things. Women are graduating from college at higher rates than men, landing high-paying careers, able to provide for themselves easily without a man, are starting their own companies (some becoming self-made billionaires like Sarah Blakely and Kylie Jenner), and even running for President of the United States (Hilary Clinton, Elizabeth Warren and Kamala Harris). Men aren’t needed in the way that we once were, and, our seeming lack of utility has left men wondering, “What the hell am I supposed to do now?” We no longer have clear roles in society and men all over the world want to know how to be more masculine, and even if it’s okay. In the famous words of Bob Dylan, “The times, they are a-changing.” And modern men have failed to evolve with the changing times.Īs feminism has given rise to unprecedented equality, men are faced with a growing and inescapable sense of obsolescence. We are not the heroes of our lives, so we allay our growing sense of emasculation by watching other heroes through a steady stream of action movies, video games, and extreme sports. Yet all of our imagining does little to change the way we feel and show up in life.ĭespite our desire to “be the man”, to feel strong, accomplished, and powerful…our desires are left unmet.
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The blood in our veins rips at the sight of a vicious knockout in the UFC, and, as we watch the victor leap to the top of the cage with his arms held high in the air, we can’t help but imagine ourselves standing in his place… the taste of blood on our lips the deafening roar of the crowd filling our ears, and the inner confidence of knowing that we are capable of handling ourselves in conflict.
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#VERY MASCULINE GAY MEN TV#
We are enamored with the classically masculine archetypes that proliferate in our favorite movies, books, and TV shows (think Jon Snow, Don Draper, Hank Moody, and Captain America).
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Subconsciously pining for a resurgence in traditional masculinity. In one breath, we eschew and vilify masculinity and traditionally “manly” virtues, labeling them as “toxic” and detrimental to society. We live in a world caught between two extremes.